HAVE YOU EVER TRIED TO MAKE SOMETHING HAPPEN? Maybe make a relationship work, or force God’s hand in a situation? Abraham did. Abraham tried to make good on God’s promise by taking matters into his own hands. He brought forth Ishmael by his own means; he didn’t wait on God, he was impatient and tried to make good on God’s promise of a son. The consequences of that mistake are still going on today. Abraham had to learn the difference between trusting the promise and trusting the Promiser. We can put God’s promise before God Himself and feel it is our responsibility to bring the promise to pass, even if we have to disobey God to do it. And guess what comes of that? NO GOOD THING. There are lots of promises of God in scripture, but it is your job to trust the Promiser and His job to fulfill His promises, not yours. Your only job is to TRUST HIM. His Word is true and He is TRUSTWORTHY. He will bring His promise to pass, in His time and in His way. Don’t pull an Ishmael, you can do a lot of damage. TRUST HIM ALONE. “And now, Lord, what do I wait for and expect? My hope and expectation are in You.” Psalm 39:7 David was promised an heir who would rule FOREVER. He never saw Jesus, but He fulfilled that promise. You’ll end up frustrated and bitter. WAIT ON GOD. Trust the PROMISER no matter what and the promise will be taken care of.
LIFE IS NOT FAIR. I learned this a long time ago. When we look at the lack and unfairness in our own lives, it will become magnified. In fact, whatever we focus on will become magnified. Just recently, I was focusing on the brokenness in my own family and I started to get down and depressed. Where was this person? Why didn’t they love me? Why did this happen to me? Why wasn’t I protected? And the list goes on. I trapped myself in this thinking for a few days until God’s Word broke through with a scripture I had memorized years ago, “When my father and mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.” And I began focusing that Word, over and over until it became REAL. King David said, ” Unless Your law had been my delight, I would have perished in my affliction. I will never forget Your precepts, for it is by them You have quickened me (granted me life).” Psalm 119:92-93 There is truly LIFE in His Word. There is HOPE in His Word. There is PEACE in His ways. There is FULLNESS of JOY in His presence. It is when you begin to focus on your circumstances that the ENEMY comes in and speaks lies, doubt, confusion; and your affliction will overwhelm you. This is why you MUST control your thought life! Whatsoever things are good, pure, right, true- think on these things! You have to constantly correct wrong thinking, cast it out and replace with His Word! Yes, it’s a battle; but it’s one that YOU CAN WIN BY GOD’S WORD. Let Him tell you who you are and what you can do AND THEN you will be victorious!
Pastor Matt Krachunis – Faith and Victory – faithandvictory.com
Billy Burgans talks with me about evangelism and walking out life as a Christian.
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Pastor Jay Alexander – Faith and Victory – faithandvictory.com
Pastor Jay Alexander – Faith and Victory – faithandvictory.com
The Calling that Leads to Your Calling – Pastor Steve Dalton – Faith and Victory Church Auburn, WA – faithandvictory.com/thrivepodcast
Pastor Jeremy talks about leading today’s youth to Jesus and what it takes to lead the youth ministry. – faithandvictory.com/thrivepodcast
I’m not a parenting expert by any means but some things I’m successful at. When I find and identify those things, I like to share them with other people so if it works for them they can succeed as well. One thing that has helped me tremendously with my relationship with my teen daughter is the fact that we talk in the car.
Sometimes as a parent I feel like a taxicab. I run my daughter to this and that and the other thing. She has endless interests, school things, church things, and doctor appointments (ug). This is the life of an American teenager. Since she’s to young to drive I must be her chauffeur. Early on I observed that while we were in the car we were listening to the radio, she would use my phone to play games (she doesn’t have a phone yet), she would read a book, I would listen to sports, or we would just sit there in silence. There is nothing wrong with any of these things but I wanted something more. I wanted a deeper relationship with my daughter and I might as well use this “car time” as a way to do that.
And so we created the “rule”. The rule has been altered a few times but is roughly as follows:
While my daughter and I are in the car alone (no friends or family) we will not play the radio, be on the phone, read, or be distracted by any other outside device. We will engage in conversation.
Simple, effective, and brilliant (if I do say so myself 🙂 )
Now as the parent I have a few additional rules that apply to only me.
The goal here is not to have idle conversation. The goal is to dig deeper into my daughters life and get to know what she loves and likes. To share in her struggles (not solve them for her) and to walk in the process of her growing up. To do that I have to pry just a bit. I try to ask questions that can’t be answered in yes/no. I also try not to demand answers but instead to ask questions about the deeper and important things in my daughters life. Not that every car ride needs to be the sex talk (cause that would be weird) but your conversations shouldn’t be about the weather or a football game.
Things that I like to focus on are
- What are your goals for the day?
- What do you need to pray about?
- Who else would you like to pray for?
- Who have you been hanging out at school with recently?
- What are are they like?
- What do you talk about?
- What boys do you have a crush on?
- How is your homework going?
- How is your faith/relationship with God?
- What was your favorite part of the most recent sermon?
- I now you were frustrated about (whatever happened last night) lets talk about that
Does it always work? No. Sometimes we just go in circles because one or both of us is frustrated or can’t handle the conversation. The overall process is a success however because over a period of time I get to have real, meaningful conversations with my daughter and don’t feel I have to “steal” from other parts of my day or her day to get it. I know that when she goes off to brave the world on her own our “car time” will be something I miss.
Have a blessed week.
ps – I let my daughter read this before I posted it ;).
pps – this is not the only time I spend with my daughter … this is an addition to our relationship not the entire relationship.
ppps – if you pray in the car with your teenager don’t close your eyes if you are driving