“Ressurection Power” from Classic Hits of 2016 by Pastor Matt Krachunis. Released: 0. Genre: Christianity.
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We’ve talked about what happens when you don’ stay grounded in Christ. When you don’t keep who you are in perspective of who Christ is. We covered Isolation already and we ’bout to get offended. When we don’t keep our identity in Him secure, we risk having a strong spirit of offense. We walk around READY to be offended because we aren’t secure in who we are without outside approval.
My son was diagnosed with Autism about 5 years ago. It was a really dark time in my life. I took everything personally- TV shows, fleeting ignorance, everyone’s opinions. I wanted to explain everything to every judgmental side-eye and every scoffing smirk. I felt like I needed to be justified in every action and decision, the reality is, I should have been satisfied with already having been justified by the only One who matters. My offended spirit started before anyone opened their mouth. It started in MY fear, MY brokenness, MY tore up heart, but mostly my shaky identity.
I was in a season where, by the worlds standards, I was wholly and completely a failure. My marriage was floundering, my job was terrible, we were hopping around from family members and basements with an autistic toddler, and I had no idea how to be a mom to him. My emotional darkness started long before my situation was dim though- it started when I was trying to be defined by what I could do (being a wife, my job, my parenting ability) and not WHOSE I was. In retrospect I’m so thankful I didn’t have success in that season,or I could see myself being defined by the stuff. I wanted so much to have SOMEONE say “I’m proud of you”, when someone already was. I’m HIS DAUGHTER. I’m HIS IMAGE. that’s all I need. I could have saved myself a lot of heartache if I had gotten that in my thick skull a little sooner.
It shouldn’t matter whether someone else understands or not, THE ONE who understands everything does.
When we get our roles mixed up with who we are, we feel rejection at every turn. This world is full of a million different opinions on EVERYTHING. Literally. Just google “parenting styles” and you will see an opinion from every possible corner. Just because someone has a differing opinion, doesnt mean its a personal attack or rejection.
Moms, here me on this especially, just because someone parents differently than you, doesn’t mean you should be automatically offended. Dont start off on that same road I was on- ready to be offended. Don’t put all your identity in your kids, or you WILL be consumed by a spirit of offense. Every side comment about your kids’ behavior or body or brain or spirit or whatever, will crush you or enrage you if you don’t know who you are and know what your kids are and aren’t. This body we are called to is beautifully diverse. We have different personalities and gifts, why would we think parenting would look the same on all of us? <Small caveat… There ARE biblical standards for parental training and we DO need to follow those. Keep in mind there is also a difference between butting heads and loving accountability- receive loving correction if its due!).
Personal annoyance rant- What’s up with the mom-wars guys? Really? Is everyone so desperate to pick a fight that we are going to divide the church because of baby-wearing, vaccines, breastfeeding or GMOs? Seriously? Why would we let the devil have that foothold!? (rant done)
“Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person” Col. 4:6
The next time you’re offended, mad, or ready to type that comment online- think- is this as big as the Cross? All these hurts- are they as big as the Cross? Really, we know none of them are. But its a good reminder for me in it all. When my heart hurts from a smart remark- is it as big as the cross? No, its not. It’s really not. I’m not willing to let bitterness into my heart and rip me and what God has for me up and just so I can feel justified and stew in my anger. how DUMB!
“Don not take to heart all the things that people say, lest you hear your servant cursing you. Your heart knows that many times you yourself have cursed others.” Ecc.7:21-22
I only try to give as much grace to other people as was given to me. I should clarify, I’ve been given a lot of grace (mostly because I have a mouth that moves faster than my brain). Be careful what you say and be careful not to hold onto one person’s fleeting fault and emotion become a root of bitterness in you. Its hard to take out once its planted.
“Blessed are the merciful for they shall be shown mercy” (Matt 5:7)
Sounds good to me. Put on your crown. Know who you are. It doesnt matter what other people say if you are confident in whose you are.
“The Thing About Vomit” from Faith and Victory Church by Pastor Crystal Krachunis. Released: 2016.
This episode we discuss prophecy and the prophet with Pastor Crystal Krachunis and Amanda Mott from Desperate Ministries.
So, this is the first of 3 parts where we will talk about what happens if your identity isn’t firmly founded in Christ.
When someone asks you to tell them about who you are, how do you describe yourself? Almost every single time the response is “I work at ______” or “I’m a mom” or “I’m so-and-so’s wife” or “I do x-y-z”. The reality is, none of those things describe YOU, they all describe things you DO. Your roles. Not your identity. Let’s put that out there first. You aren’t a job, you are a person with different qualities from everyone else. Every person is a unique concoction that makes them up- unique from everyone else. Not a single person on the planet was made just like you. (Really think about that for a second and you’re fixing to blow your mind). We are all so different, and yet can walk out righteousness in so many different ways. We have to be grounded in who we are IN CHRIST or else we will flounder- a lot.
Who/what/when/where you are isn’t a happenstance thing- It’s ON PURPOSE. He put you where you are for such a time as this, for such a mission as this. He made you, with your individual qualities ON PURPOSE. (small caveat- there are things He is working out of us too, we live in a sinful world and we need to seek after Him to be refined, but who we are is who He made us).
So much of the time we get side tracked on our mission. We forget the WHY we are doing things. And often it is because we don’t have a solid foundation of WHO we are. I struggled for quite awhile coming to be ok in this. I am not a quiet, demure, docile woman. I am loud, boisterous, a little crazy (not like I’ll hurt you crazy, more like I’ll make you socially awkward crazy). I had a hard time trying to make myself look like what I thought a godly woman/wife/mom looked like. But the truth is, righteousness comes in all different shades- loud or quiet, serious or silly, type A personality or the hot mess mama just trying to get everyone dressed. Every family looks different, and giving God glory is going to look different in each family. Another caveat- the Bible DOES give specific direction on godly character or godly parenting or marriage or friendship. Follow that, do what it says. Just remember it isn’t going to look the same on everyone.
Being a mom is a role, not your identity.
Being a wife is a role, not your identity.
Wherever you work is your role, not your identity.
Keep all of this in mind over the next few posts.
When we mix our roles and identity up, we end up shaky and ungrounded and in one of three camps: being isolated, being offended, or being a Pharisee (what?- just stick with me on this).
- Being Isolated.
Being isolated doesn’t necessarily mean being a recluse and never coming outside (although it can be). You can isolate yourself in a crowd, with your friends, with your family. One of the definitions of ‘isolated’ is ‘to become unengaged’. What happens when a part of your body becomes ‘unengaged’?……. It dies! If you wrap a rubber band around your pinky and the blood cant get there, it becomes ‘unengaged’, it dies. If blood cant get to a part of your body, it dies. When you are in the body of Christ, you CANNOT isolate yourself, you will slowly kill yourself. We are called to be one body, not one pancreas or one liver. We aren’t one self functioning glob of awesomeness. We are a BODY of different parts that are supposed to be working together. we can carry more together than we can apart.
“The Blood Covenant” from Faith and Victory Church by Pastor Matt Krachunis. Released: 2016.
“Giving Life” from Faith and Victory Church by Pastor Jay Alexander. Released: 2016. Genre: Christian.
“Whatever You Need” from Faith and Victory Church by Pastor Matt Krachunis. Released: 2016.