HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN AN ABUSIVE relationship? Maybe it was physical abuse or emotional abuse where you were called names and put down all the time? I’ve experienced that kind of abuse and it is degrading and life-stealing, leaving the victim an empty shell of a person. But I want you to think about this: how many people abuse the church?
The church is Jesus’ Bride, “Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honor to Him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and His wife has made herself ready.” Rev 19:7 She is welcoming, the church, and so people come in, use her and leave.
These same people will come back again because she welcomes them back and they spit on her and punch her in the eye and leave. Come back again and use her and call her names and leave again. It’s a vicious cycle with some. Some do it in ignorance because they are blinded by Satan; yet there is a large contingent of people who do it knowingly.
In fact, they believe they have every right to their abusive behavior. This kind of abuse would never be accepted in any other relationship, you could be thrown in jail for physical abuse. But the church? She takes it again and again. Guess what? This abusive behavior is not pleasing to her Groom.
Try talking about me and abusing me and let my husband find out about it. I can assure you, he will not stand by idly. I am his beloved. Are you an abuser? How are you treating His church? Are you a user or do you mistreat her? Do you take advantage of her kindness and dabble in her fellowship? What are you saying about her and her pastors?
How are you treating her people? Are you trashing the pastors and overseers? Are you a spiritual fornicator, wanting all the benefits of the Body without the commitment? If you are not submitted to her authority, you are not committed. “Let every soul be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and the authorities that exist are appointed by God.
Therefore whoever resists the authority resists the ordinance of God, and those who resist will bring judgment on themselves.”Romans 13:1-2 (Some will say this is a scripture only for civil authority, yet I would challenge you that the church is a governing authority, set up by God with a system of governance and oversight)“
Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they keep watch over your souls as those who will give an account, so that they can do this with joy and not with grief, for that would be unprofitable for you.” Hebrews 13:17 Now, maybe she’s hurt you, for that I am truly sorry. She’s meant to bring healing, not hurt.
Find a church that won’t abuse you, because you need to be a part of a local church body and she needs you. “You” are not the church unless you function within the “we” of a local fellowship of believers. However, do not say that she hurt and abused you when you were disciplined. Discipline and instruction in righteousness is part of her requirement. Overseers will answer to God on whether or not they corrected and trained the brethren.
A healthy church needs a good dose of discipline. I praise God for shepherds who care about the holiness and spiritual condition of their sheep. You should praise God for pastors who take care of and defend their sheep too. But for the rest, think about how you treat her and stop the abusive behavior. You need to repent, otherwise you will give an account to God for your abuse. #runyourrace
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