I HATE ASSUMPTIONS. Do not assume something about me, ask me. If you want to know about a situation, ask me. If you want to know what I said, ask me. Grow some courage and talk to those who you have a grudge against. In my 17 years of ministry, I’ve heard more false accusations about myself and others in the church than the years before Christ when I worked in a bar, where loose lips are in abundance.
Here’s a common example, someone has an offense against the pastor. Typically, because he did not do what they wanted him to do (majority of the time, he does not even know what it is you want because you did not have the courage to talk to him). You spread your offense to another who is just as weak. Instead of telling the offended, “that’s an offense and it’s not of God”; the listener takes on your offense and tells someone else, “do you know what the pastor did?!” And on and on and on causing division and more offense in the Body of Christ.
This is a tool of Satan- a kingdom divided cannot stand. That person who never even had an offense, is eying you suspiciously, believing the lies and accusations of the offended. “An evildoer gives heed to false lips; A liar listens eagerly to a spiteful tongue.” Proverbs 17:4 The lie becomes truth and the offended builds up walls that no one can penetrate. This is an all too common story. How do you rectify an offense? First of all, offense is a choice. Get some courage and stop the spread of another’s offense immediately. Do not assume another’s actions; when in doubt, ask. Genuine communication and conversation kills the enemy.
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