Day 1
A Wingman Has Your Six
Small Group Questions
- The first murder in human history was covered up with the lie “I am not my brother’s keeper” (or more specifically “Am I my brother’s keeper?” If we are honest, we can all say we have failed at being our brother’s keeper from time to time… how can we do better, how can you do better specifically?
- When you hear your brother murmur about his life, his job, his family, or his faith… how can you respond in a way that protects, encourages, and uplifts your brother?
- The enemy wants to isolate us… he wants to separate us from the pack, get us away from our wingmen… honesty time, are you isolated in your faith or do you have men who are your wingman? Everyone in the group needs to answer this, no skipping… if someone feels isolated or doesn’t want to answer, it is the responsibility of the other men in this group to rise up and become his wingman, to watch his six. Trade numbers, make plans to see each other outside of church, make it happen men!
I AM MY BROTHER’S KEEPER
I AM HIS WINGMAN
I WILL NEVER LEAVE HIM ALONE
WE WILL FLY TOGETHER
WE WILL FIGHT TOGETHER
WE WILL WIN TOGETHER
OR WE WILL DIE TOGETHER
BUT I WILL NEVER LEAVE HIM ALONE
I AM MY BROTHER’S KEEPER
Day 2 Morning
A Wingman Sees Your Blind Spots
Small Group Questions
- Proverbs 27:5-6 states “Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy”. Why is open rebuke better than hidden love? How can wounds be faithful? Are you willing to be rebuked by your wingmen? More than willing, do you invite… do you desire, even… to be rebuked when you err?
- Rebuke hurts! When being rebuked our flesh will cry out “Be offended! Get defensive! Don’t let him talk to you like that”. What can you do right now, what can you commit to right now to make sure that your flesh does not overtake your spirit, to make sure you listen, consider, and receive rebuke as the loving gift that it is?
- Do you have a man in your life, a Christian, who you trust more than yourself? If not, why is that so dangerous? What can you do to fix that? (Hint for group leaders: We all have blind spots, we need someone we trust more than ourselves because it is those kind of wingmen that can check our blind spot and save us from certain destruction.)
- James 5:16 says “Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.” Confession time… real confession, no beating around the bush, no being vague with your “struggles”… MAN UP! What area of your life have you allowed sin into? When your brother confesses, it’s time to rise up and commit to be their wingman in this area, to help them conquer the sin and be restored to righteousness, help them check their blind spot.
I AM MY BROTHER’S KEEPER
I AM HIS WINGMAN
I WILL NEVER LEAVE HIM ALONE
WE WILL FLY TOGETHER
WE WILL FIGHT TOGETHER
WE WILL WIN TOGETHER
OR WE WILL DIE TOGETHER
BUT I WILL NEVER LEAVE HIM ALONE
I AM MY BROTHER’S KEEPER
Day 2 Evening
A Wingman Corrects Your Mistakes
Small Group Questions
- Why is the advice “when you make mistakes just move on” bad advice? (Hint to small group leaders: This is bad advice because it leaves all of the error correction on yourself, this is especially bad if you don’t realize your mistakes until it is too late. Your wingman can help you avoid your mistake before the consequences are too dire… I.E. before Goose dies!)
- Why is it hard to listen to your wingman when he tries to correct your mistake? Will listening to your wingman help your relationship with Christ and others, or will it hurt it?
- If your wingman corrects what they think is a mistake, but they are wrong, how should we take that instead of getting offended?
- Proverbs 27:17 says, “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another”. How does confronting your wingman’s mistakes make you both stronger?
- Are you willing to confront your brother when he messes up… we are not talking about a slow fade, or a drifting, but when he makes a complete and objective mistake… will you be the one to step in and say something… to step in and help? Why or why not?
I AM MY BROTHER’S KEEPER
I AM HIS WINGMAN
I WILL NEVER LEAVE HIM ALONE
WE WILL FLY TOGETHER
WE WILL FIGHT TOGETHER
WE WILL WIN TOGETHER
OR WE WILL DIE TOGETHER
BUT I WILL NEVER LEAVE HIM ALONE
I AM MY BROTHER’S KEEPER
Day 3
A Wingman Increases Your Firepower Exponentially
Small Group Questions
- Have you ever considered your Christian life as a war? How often do you consider the spiritual battle that is going on around you? What areas of your life are battle zones that the enemy is trying to win? Will you let him take this ground?
- Scripture describes only one weapon when it comes to spiritual battle, the Sword of the Spirit which is the Word of God. How well trained are you with your sword? Are you ready to entrust your life to it? Are you ready to use it in battle? What can you do to make yourself more effective with your weapon?
- In battle you need to have your brother’s back, you need to be his wingman. When you bring your sword to the fight you increase the power of his own… how can you use your sword to back your wingman up?
- Are you ready to man up and take the battle to the enemy? Take this time to make battle plans, real practical battle plans with your wingmen in your small group… who can you help in their fight and how… how can others help you in your fight? Commit to one another, then follow through and execute that commitment!
I AM MY BROTHER’S KEEPER
I AM HIS WINGMAN
I WILL NEVER LEAVE HIM ALONE
WE WILL FLY TOGETHER
WE WILL FIGHT TOGETHER
WE WILL WIN TOGETHER
OR WE WILL DIE TOGETHER
BUT I WILL NEVER LEAVE HIM ALONE
I AM MY BROTHER’S KEEPER
